
Meet Alexandria Scalone
Registered Play Therapist (RPT)
Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT)
Therapist & owner of Seattle Family Therapy
Licensed in Washington state # LF61532771
My Approaches & Philosophy
Structural Family Therapy
Structural Family Therapy focuses on understanding and changing family dynamics. It emphasizes the importance of family structure and interactions in shaping behaviors and relationships. By identifying and addressing patterns within the family, this therapeutic approach aims to improve communication and strengthen bonds.
Contextual Family Therapy
Contextual Family Therapy (CFT) is a therapeutic approach that focuses on the relational context of family interactions. It emphasizes the importance of fairness and trust within family dynamics, acknowledging the emotional history of relationships. CFT works to address multigenerational issues and promotes healing by fostering a sense of accountability and open communication among family members.
Existential Therapy
Existential therapy helps kids and families explore their feelings about life's big questions like “what is the point?!” It can explore our choices and what matters. We also talk about the Purpose of life here.
It encourages open conversations to understand a kid’s experiences of death, and to look for meaning in life and death. Dying is intriguing to kids, and it can also be scary to think about or process. If parents are grieving too, sometimes a kid benefits from asking an objective listener.

Play is Therapy
Playing helps kiddos express feelings & process experiences without having to explain or make sense of them.
Play therapy is a modality and a philosophy.
Playing provides a safe space for children to communicate their experiences through reenacting or having restorative experiences with their therapist. Play therapists are trained to decode kid behavior.
Play can reveal issues parents may be in the dark about. A play therapist uses fun materials like sand trays, games, books, imagination, dramatic play (singing, dress-up, dolls, cars & trucks & boats, lego towns, theater performances) to prompt and facilitate discussions. Play therapists guide kids and teens in exploring their thoughts and feelings before, during, and after playing.
More About Me
I’m a Washingtonian who loves to hike, camp, backpack, paddle, & bike around town. I studied art in college + I worked in childcare for several years.
When I decided to become a therapist, I knew I wanted to keep working with kids & teens because they rule.
Not everybody has the energy and patience required to work with children and families. But, it’s easy for me to care about you and we can bring about change together. The results can be profound.
We’re working together on your child’s future, not just today’s problems.
Education & Training
2022 MA | Marriage & Family Therapy
Antioch University Seattle
2015 BA | Fine Arts | University of Oregon
Professional Memberships
• American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT)
• Washington Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (WAMFT)
• Association for Play Therapy
• Washington Association for Play Therapy
Who I work great with
Parents who collaborate with their kids’ care team members, including therapists
Kids & teens who need a neutral adult to talk to about things, including age-appropriate education on a variety of topics from war to sex
Couples who are struggling or making big decisions and need support
Families who want to work more efficiently and with more ease and less discord
Parents who are burnt out, tired, cranky, and need a vacation.
Who I don’t work so great with
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I do not provide neurological, neuropsychological, or psychiatric evaluations. This includes Autism testing.
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Domestic Abuse (DA), Intimate Partner Violence (IPV), and Coercive Control (CC) are serious, complicated dynamics that can be dangerous to your safety, your mental health, and even your life. I do not have the experience in this area that I believe will serve you best if these dynamics are present in your life, or if the goals of therapy include trauma from IPV, DA, or CC. If you are already aware that you have experienced IPV, DA, or CC in the past, or are currently experiencing these dynamics, please seek services with a provider who has expertise in these areas. I will be happy to help if I can. Sometimes people don’t realize they are involved in abusive relationships, and evidence of this kind of relationship may arise after we have started your therapy. If you start treatment with me and I come to believe that you may be experiencing any of these dynamics, I may refer you to another provider. If this occurs, it is important that you understand that a referral to a counselor who has experience in Domestic Abuse would be to ensure that you can access care, not to abandon your care. If you think you may be experiencing a relationship with any type of abuse, you can also call the 24/7 National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 for information or for someone to talk to anytime.
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I do not provide evaluations or write Individual Education Programs (IEPs) for school-aged kids.
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Forensic psychology is the intersection of psychology and the legal system. It focuses on the assessment & understanding of individuals involved in criminal and civil proceedings.
I do not provide forensic services for court cases. I do not provide opinions or recommendations in the form of letters or declarations related to custody, medical likelihood of recovery or cause of any condition, or any other forensic matter.
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I do not typically work with people whose primary purpose in therapy is to meet a court mandate or to inform my involvement in forensic matters.
This is because I will not provide opinions or recommendations related to your custody agreement. Guardian Ad Litem (GAL) situations are typically too complex for my scope of practice.
I only work with parents who can [all] consent to having their child treated with therapy. I thrive when working with parents who honor the age of consent (13 in the state of Washington).
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I do not provide letters for emotional support pets. It is outside the scope of my training.
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I do not provide Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) treatment. It is outside the scope of my practice and I don’t believe in it. It is “effective” but it’s also not a consent-based child treatment.
I can only interview you about whether your child meets diagnostic criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). I recommend working with a psychiatric nurse practitioner, psychiatrist, neuropsychologist or other psychometrist if you’re seeking definitive answers.
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I can affirm self-diagnoses of neurodivergence and I can also help you rule certain things out.
I will likely recommend you see an adjunctive psychometrist for a more detailed assessment, which closes some doors and opens others.
Sometimes people are seeking testing in order to get an IEP. These purposes for testing typically do not accept graduate-level trained clinicians. You may need a referral for someone with a doctorate degree (PsyD, PhD, MD).
Let’s get this party started
I don’t offer consultation calls.
Instead, I offer a 1st session. No commitment is required. You come see me, feel it out. See if you want to keep coming.